What’s your Love Language?

I’m going to try and keep up with Belle Brita’s #LoveBlog prompts for February 2016.

Today’s prompt is based on the 5 Love Languages, a book my mother-in-law passed me many years ago. I took the free online quiz to refresh my memory. The areas I scored highest on, and funnily enough, the areas I would say I excel at, are Words of Affirmation and Acts of Service.

Unsolicited compliments mean the world to me. When my husband or daughter tell me they love me, or something I’ve done for them, I float on air all day. Conversely, insults or harsh words can leave me shattered and raw, and unfortunately, I don’t forget easily (or trust quickly).

Similarly, helping others gives me great joy, and getting help, although I don’t often ask for it, is gratefully received. Vacuum my floors and I’ll love you forever. Ease the burden of my day-to-day drudgery (read: chores) and I’ll love you forever. One of the nicest, kindest things Husband did for me was regularly taking his shirts out to get service-washed & ironed. Bliss.

Receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch fall lower on my scales, but I know Husband and DD (almost ten now) both love quality time and lots of hugs and cuddles, so I have to balance my needs with theirs.

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Because all good girly days involve duck-face selfies!

DD and I have lots of ‘girly days’ or even just afternoons when she gets to choose all our activities and I go along for the ride. It’s not a huge effort for me to do this, and she responds with words I need to hear. She mops the floor and works really hard to get herself organised on school nights for the next day, so I’m not stressed and she gets extra time with me in the mornings. A win-win for both of us!

As a family, we’re pretty open about what we need, and letting each other know when we’re not getting what we need. So really, is it knowing our love languages, or good communication, which is the key?

What do you think?

6 thoughts on “What’s your Love Language?

  1. Brita says:

    Which came first, love languages or good communication? Ha!

    I think it’s one of those things where it’s important to communicate if your needs aren’t being met, with suggestions for your partner/parent/child to help meet those needs… But it’s also important for each person in a family to participate fully as a member of the family, which includes expressing love to the rest of the family.

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  2. Charlene says:

    Isn’t it great how the love language quiz usually affirms what we already thought? I just like to see the results in a tangible way and use that as a means to start the conversation with my husband when my need aren’t being met. He is familiar with the love languages too so it just makes things easier for me to say I’ve been craving Quality Time lately and he understands because he knows that’s my number one love language.

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