People who achieve goals know what they want in the first place. They have a dream and they go for it. If you never craft your heart’s wish in clear detail, how can you expect to get it?
A lot of us, for a variety of reasons, have lost touch with our own rhythms and wishes. “You don’t always get what you want”, “I want doesn’t get”, and similar phrases have been trotted out by us and others every time we didn’t quite succeed. A lot of people, women especially, believe that putting themselves first, to find their own happiness, is incredibly selfish. Well, yes! If you won’t find your happiness, who will?
Be selfish.
I’m daring you to take back your wish list! Start honouring your preferences, no matter how small they seem. Look at the words below:
Curiosity, Passion, WondeR
Do they spark ideas? Memories? Run with them. Even if they don’t turn out the way you hope, you’ll know what doesn’t work for you. Prioritise learning yourself. Start simple by making a list of things you want to do, achieve and have in your life.
Can you excavate your core preferences?
When I was drained, totally drained, after my last contract, I thought about what I loved to do with my time. I made endless lists of everything I loved, jobs I had done, and dream roles, and tried to figure out how I was going to switch careers into something more creative. Because at my core, I am a maker. My dream jobs included working at a magazine or a book publishing house. Six months later, I am the new Publishing & Editorial Assistant at Iceberg Press, focused on The Simple Things magazine. I also started this blog, got to grips with Twitter, and did other ad hoc bits in between, but I’m pretty darn sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t consciously written it down and worked towards it. Seeing it in black and white, and working on this blog, just cemented the desire to make it real.
All you have to do at this point is clarify your wish list to yourself.
I’m not asking you to share. Don’t worry about how it’s going to happen right now; the gods/angels/Universe/stars have a weird way of aligning and presenting opportunities once you are clear what you want.
Sit down down tonight, sip a glass of wine, slurp a cup of tea, get out your coloured pens, and your paper, and start writing.
Dream big! No one else can dream for you!
I totally love that mag!!!! So amazing, V!!!
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Believe me, I am still pinching myself. You would love the team that puts it together, too!
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Reblogged this on SassaFrass, The Feisty and commented:
I’m SO doing this in a little while. And I have THREE NEW PINK PENS TO WRITE WITH! I will choose to be selfish now and not feel guilty
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It’s good when you write things out. It feels real. And makes you take ownership!
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Thank you so much for writing this. I really needed it today.
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You need some Cheerwine!
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I have read so many times to write out your goals, etc. I did one time, pretty definitive, but I am no longer working at that job so guess I need to start over. I have a whole of brand new gel pens with lots of color. Maybe in non-existent free time I will make a new list.
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“What if I fall? But, oh, my darling, what if you fly?”
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Very inspirational! I have two months off of school this summer and I plan to write like crazy, take an art class, and do lots of fun things. So happy for you getting to do what you love too.
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I honestly love every day. I feel good about what I’m doing. I feel heard. I feel understood. It’s a good place to be.
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I’m going to work on a list of my own, it is about time I put some clear goals out into the universe.
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Yes, you deserve some great stuff! Because you’re FAAAAAABULOUS.
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Top of my list is a new job in a new city. This process is much slower than I anticipated.
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I love doing bucket list stuff! I just finished three goals within the last two weeks. 🙂 I used to be a lazy girl and now I have goals! 🙂
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