People who achieve goals know what they want in the first place. They have a dream and they go for it. If you never craft your heart’s wish in clear detail, how can you expect to get it?
A lot of us, for a variety of reasons, have lost touch with our own rhythms and wishes. “You don’t always get what you want”, “I want doesn’t get”, and similar phrases have been trotted out by us and others every time we didn’t quite succeed. A lot of people, women especially, believe that putting themselves first, to find their own happiness, is incredibly selfish. Well, yes! If you won’t find your happiness, who will?
I’m daring you to take back your wish list! Start honouring your preferences, no matter how small they seem. Look at the words below:
Curiosity, Passion, WondeR
Do they spark ideas? Memories? Run with them. Even if they don’t turn out the way you hope, you’ll know what doesn’t work for you. Prioritise learning yourself. Start simple by making a list of things you want to do, achieve and have in your life.
Can you excavate your core preferences?
When I was drained, totally drained, after my last contract, I thought about what I loved to do with my time. I made endless lists of everything I loved, jobs I had done, and dream roles, and tried to figure out how I was going to switch careers into something more creative. Because at my core, I am a maker. My dream jobs included working at a magazine or a book publishing house. Six months later, I am the new Publishing & Editorial Assistant at Iceberg Press, focused on The Simple Things magazine. I also started this blog, got to grips with Twitter, and did other ad hoc bits in between, but I’m pretty darn sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t consciously written it down and worked towards it. Seeing it in black and white, and working on this blog, just cemented the desire to make it real.
All you have to do at this point is clarify your wish list to yourself.
I’m not asking you to share. Don’t worry about how it’s going to happen right now; the gods/angels/Universe/stars have a weird way of aligning and presenting opportunities once you are clear what you want.
Sit down down tonight, sip a glass of wine, slurp a cup of tea, get out your coloured pens, and your paper, and start writing.